Woman Crush Month is a month-long series by the girls of She Did What She Wanted
in celebration of Women’s History Month.
By Alexa Mancilla
It’s that time of year again: the time where we celebrate some amazing, inspiring, strong, and powerful women who we look up to. I definitely had a tough time finding a strong woman to showcase, not because I couldn’t think of anyone to showcase, but because I had too many amazing women that I wanted to showcase. The second that I heard that Woman Crush Month was a thing, I began brainstorming on cool women that I could write about. I became so excited, but also slightly terrified. I had the opportunity to write about some great women, but I was so scared that I wouldn’t give them justice. There are so many incredible, inspirational, strong, kind, and smart women out in the world, and I was prepared to write about all of them. Alas, there are a lot of other lovely ladies who want to write about equally as lovely ladies, and there are only so many days in March. So, after some deliberation, I made a choice.
For my first Woman Crush Month, I decided to write about Ashley Frangipane (also known as singer-songwriter, Halsey). Not only is Halsey an amazing performer who writes beautifully poetic songs, but she is also an activist for many.
Halsey is outspoken on social media and in interviews, refusing to stay silent on the things that matter. She uses outlets like Twitter to show fans that their voices are worth so much and that they are capable of anything. Halsey uses her large following as a way to create a dialogue when it comes to issues that matter. Whether it be with the Flint water crisis, LGBT+ issues, police brutality, or simply getting out to vote or to protest, Halsey is sure to implore her fans to do whatever they can to help. She encourages fans to use their creativity to let their voices be heard. She implores fans to step back and realize how privileged they may be while explaining that there are others who need our help. She is sure to encourage all who can to vote, to protest, to make calls, to do whatever it takes to make our world better. She is an advocate for the pro-choice movement, is an outspoken intersectional feminist, and is constantly connecting with her fans. She is unapologetically liberal and is sure to use her platform to help anyone who may need it.
Along with finding stardom almost overnight, Halsey has helped many fans in their everyday lives. As a bisexual, bipolar, and biracial woman in music, she has had to overcome many struggles and is prepared to help anyone who may be going through the same thing. By having an active presence on Twitter, she allows for fans to ask her for advice, vent to her, or simply let her know how much they mean to her. By being open about her mental illness, she shows fans that they are not alone and that things will always get better. She lets listeners know that it’s okay to be vulnerable and it’s okay to hurt sometimes. She doesn’t romanticize her illness, but instead is honest with what goes on in her brain. She reminds that it’s okay to have a mental illness; it doesn’t define a person. Halsey is also bisexual and biracial, and incredibly proud of those qualities. She remains in control of how people perceive her and is prepared to defend her race and sexuality, no matter what. She is sure to have a strong dialogue with fans about bisexuality and makes sure that erasure of the sexuality is never warranted. While she may not let her half black, half white background define her, she makes sure anyone watching her knows of her pride.
She doesn’t let anyone get her down, no matter how rude, and is sure to put people in their place when they may be out of line. She is unapologetically herself, even if it may get her into hot water at times. While some may find her rash behavior and quick wit unnerving and brash, many find it refreshing. Seeing a person of high status putting people in their place who only have courage behind computer screens gives many the confidence to stand up to those who only have hatred in their hearts. Although many of her ‘clap backs’ to dissenters are deleted shortly after they are posted, fans find her “take no prisoners” attitude empowering. As a strong-willed intersectional feminist, Halsey’s loud and unforgiving attitude is one that strengthens girls in speaking out against any injustice towards them. Her strong attitude shows female fans that a loud and unapologetic persona isn’t reserved for just men; any human is deserving of a loud and strong voice that is capable of standing up for anyone and anything.
Halsey allows young men and women everywhere to have the opportunity to do what they choose, whenever. Her openness about what makes her her give fans insight into her life while making them feel less alone. She shows fans that it’s okay to be different, and accepting our quirks will only make us stronger. Halsey’s creativity and unwavering strength give fans hope for a brighter future. Her music gives fans the ability to transport themselves from wherever they may be, and her strength empowers many to continue fighting, no matter how hard things may get.
I, for one, owe a lot to Halsey. She has brought me into contact with some incredible people and has helped transform me into a better person. Her openness about mental illness and sexuality has opened my eyes and has made me less afraid to be open about my depression, anxiety, and asexuality. She never fails to empower me and give me the strength it takes to turn my thoughts into writing pieces. Her outspoken nature showed me that it’s okay to be opinionated and unapologetic, and she has opened my eyes to many problems facing our world. Because of her, I have become unafraid to speak my mind. Thanks to Halsey, I have become proud of the woman I am turning into. Sure, I’m not perfect, but no one is. Halsey has shown me that the things that make me different, the things that make me, me, only add to the wonderful person I’m becoming. If you had asked me a year ago if I thought that some girl from New Jersey (who has never met me and probably doesn’t know that I exist) would have helped propel me on my journey to self-acceptance, I would have thought you were crazy. But, it happened, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to thank her for that.
Right now, Halsey’s potentially working on a new album. While it might be hard to wait to see where this era of Halsey might take us, we still have lots of great music and art to enjoy from her. For the time being, check out her album, Badlands, or her EP, Room 93. I promise you won’t regret it.
She Did What She Wanted firmly believes there’s nothing better than women empowering other women, so when we found out March is Women’s History Month, we knew we needed to do something special. There are too many amazing women to fit into just thirty one days, but to do our best, we invited our contributors to write about the favorite women in their lives, and Woman Crush Month came to be. #WCM is the ultimate girl power party, and it’s all about women celebrating women and their achievements, and we personally can’t think of anything better than that.